Online Dating Disasters! Recovery and Moving on… For those who have lost a partner through accident or ill health, then a day like Valentine's day can be extremely painful and horrible part of the grieving process. Those who have gone through recent relationship breakdown can also feel be utterly miserable when faced with the loss of their 'Valentine'. However, there are a lot of 'singles' who dread yet another Valentine's day alone. So here is a little bit of help…
![]() All Alone on Valentine's Day? Well, don't get down and despondent. It is only one day in a whole year and not really a true reflection of your 'relationship worth'. ![]() It is natural if you see others planning romantic meals and receiving cards and gifts, to feel a little envious. However, life does not operate in a way that can ensure we always have a partner on February the 14th! Not every one in a relationship will have a memorable or pleasant Valentine's Day. In fact some people chose not to celebrate it at all. What is it all about anyway? Originally Valentine's Day it is thought to have begun as a celebration of one or more early Christian Saints named Valentinus. of course this had nothing to do with the, hearts, flowers and cards we associate it with today. One of the first valentine associations with romantic love, is thought to have been in Chaucer's writing: Quote: 'or this was on seynt Volantynys day Whan euery bryd comyth there to chese his make.' Valentine's Day is also mentioned ruefully too, by Ophelia in Hamlet (1600–1601) but I do not think there would be any fine dining or giving of red roses somehow. Eventually it did become associated with romantic love, and is now of course, as some would say, 'a rather a commercial affair'. | Here are a few things you can do to over come the Valentine's Day Blues. ![]()
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| Seriously now, just do not brood or fret, as one day out of 365 is nothing to really worry about. The law of averages tells us that at some point in our life, we will see a Feb 14 come and go all on our own…and you should really and truly not let it get you down. ![]()
EMBRACE THE DAY REMEMBER IT IS JUST 'ONE ' DAY FILL IT WITH SOMETHING FUN OR RELAX AND PUT YOUR FEET UP There's always next year! It is hard to understand at times, but romantic love is a complicated matter, and it starts with truly loving and accepting who we are, before we are very good at loving another. It also involves us 'choosing' healthy relationships. Check out the link below ©janslatercounselling 2014 |