Couples

Relationships are an essential part of our lives

We want them to happy ones

We have a natural tendency to develop close intimate and intense relationships with a few select individuals. This may lead to long-term commitment or marriage which can bring joy and happiness. However, difficulties in relationships are one of the most common causes of unhappiness, and often brings people into therapy.

As individuals we may for whatever reason face inner conflict. This we may feel is due to our partner’s behaviour or other circumstances in our lives; loss of family, job loss, children leaving home, falling in love with another! There are so many influences on our feelings and our relationships that it would not be possible to mention them all.

We invest in another with a clear expectation that we will find emotional companionship in each other. Honesty, trust, love and respect - sharing and caring, are all a part of the sense of being a couple, and at the start of a relationship the huge ‘falling in love’ chemicals that fill us with passion and enthusiasm may subside to leave misunderstanding and negative feelings. Doubts may creep in.

Life events, bereavement and having children, can also put pressure on a relationship. I will help you to be able to truly hear each other - and with you explore how you came to a place a discord or maybe just lack lustre.

Couple sessions last 50/55 minutes and I charge £85 for the session.

A double session is often advisable if there are many issues unfolding. I may frequently see each of the couple on thier own too - but never on an unequal basis.

I aim to gently encourages you both to explore issues more deeply, without feeling criticised or judged. helping you to communicate more effectively - and this helps to stop the rows and the terrible negative feelings that come from falling out with someone you are close to.

Therapy with me will give you an opportunity to understand how you think, feel and behave - as an individual and as a couple - and how you respond to life's events; it can provide an opportunity to explore options and different ways of coping with your differences and gripes.

The experience of sharing your thoughts and feelings with a counsellor, can truly relieve the feeling that you are entirely alone with your problem - and have no hope of getting your partner to understand you. Here is where I help you both. With my experience and skills I can encourage and manage, healthy open communication and help you find solutions.

I am always impartial - but will call out any poor behaviours or abuse if I experience this in my sessions.

Sometimes we have not resolved issues from our past that involve family or traumatic events. Conflicts from earlier relationships can also come with us into new relationship and effect the trust or belief that we are lovable, this eventually leads to discord or arguments.

Providing insight into the relationship dynamic, can be very useful and how if needed and with help and support this may change for the better.

Progress can often come quicker than you bargained for...

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Tel: 07850 277926

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